Self-care… a term that is used and thrown around a lot lately. What exactly is self-care?

So self-care, to me, is when you take time out from your life and all its surroundings, for yourself. For me, self-care is the time I make to relax, to spend time with myself and care for myself… Basically, time for me to take a few necessary breaths.

I know that for me, making time for self-care is important. And the importance grows the older I become. Life just seems to become busier, a little harder and draining the older you get (well, at least for me). Now, self-care is a top priority in my life.

So its only been like 2 years since I’ve taken self-care seriously. Here are 5 things that I do as part of my self-care routine:


I always said I wanted to be a writer. And I may not do that as my job now, But I definitely write. I write a lot. I write when I’m happy, sad, hopeful or feeling nothing. I write poetry, stories, letters to myself (very therapeutic), quote my favourite writers, Ideas, dreams and goals. I just enjoy putting pen to paper. Writing makes my soul happy, and I tend to use writing as escape from everything.


I grew up praying. I learned the Lord’s Prayer very early in life. And as I grew older, I learned to say my own prayers. Prayers from the depths of my heart & soul. And then I began to touch on meditation. It was mainly to try and figure out how t quiet my mind, and it has been a joy. I don’t meditate as much as I pray, but I am really going to try to meditate more, because it calms me down, and clears my mind… even if its just for a while.

Light yoga is also something I’ve recently added to this list. Stretching, even just a little bit to loosen my tense muscles has been a great relaxing method.


Reading is my favourite hobby. If i had a list of hobbies, reading would be number 1. I find it so fun and fulfilling. I read all sorts of things, but for self-care purposes, books of poetry and African literature are at the top of my reading list. I just finished reading “everything good will come” by Nigerian Author Sefi Atta… wow.

So now I’m halfway through this book by Yrsa Daley-Ward, one of my favourite poets ever…and I’m hooked. Poetry is definitely top 3 of my favorite genres to read… so calming.

I’m also re-reading the greatest book ever written, yes, I said greatest… The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo. I’ve read this book at least 10 times in the last 8 years, so it makes no sense to stop now.

I love books that offer a different world, a new world. Reading really offers me an indescribable sense of tranquility.


This has become the easiest thing for me to do. Detaching from people, things, situations, everything. I used to be so sensitive and connected to everything, and I’m slowly learning that feeling connected to myself is the only thing that should matter. And it it a glorious feeling. For my soul to have peace, I’ve had to learn to not feel the need to know everything, and be everywhere… And detachment was the only way. I don’t mean ghosting and disappearing without a word, I just mean I take a few days a week where I’m my only concern.

This past weekend was no exception. I barely left my house. And it was been a peaceful weekend.


Ahhhh, the greatest 5 letter word after the word money (LOL). But on a serious note, sleep is great. Sometimes, I spend all day dreaming of bed time. Sleep has been said to be amazing because it offers a temporary escape from life. And sometimes, that’s all it takes to lift your spirits, a little escape from life. And I’m an extremely light sleeper, so any undisturbed shut-eye I get is self-care.

So, do you practice self-care? If so, what are some of your go-to stuff to do to recharge and make your soul happy?




  1. Val I like to write poetry too😁 I think that’s so cool you write letters to yourself, talk about self-love and therapeutic. I’m gonna try that more often.❤️ I agree with you about detachment. When you remove yourself from certain situations and take time to put yourself first, it increases your self-esteem. Sometimes you must make yourself feel important and that comes from putting yourself first too. Great healthy post Val😁❤️👏🏾

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  2. These are lovely self care ideas. I especially like sleep! 😉 Who doesn’t? I need to practice detachment a little more though, cutting toxic people out of my life.

  3. I love to write poetry and read poetry books! I really need to start taking self care more seriously myself. It’s so important. I might have to check out those authors. I’m always looking for more book suggestions!

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  5. I love reading too. Sometimes for self care, I turn off my access to the internet and social media and just enjoy my thoughts. Social media can be quite draining sometimes

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