Self-care… a term that is used and thrown around a lot lately. What exactly is self-care?
So self-care, to me, is when you take time out from your life and all its surroundings, for yourself. For me, self-care is the time I make to relax, to spend time with myself and care for myself… Basically, time for me to take a few necessary breaths.
I know that for me, making time for self-care is important. And the importance grows the older I become. Life just seems to become busier, a little harder and draining the older you get (well, at least for me). Now, self-care is a top priority in my life.
So its only been like 2 years since I’ve taken self-care seriously. Here are 5 things that I do as part of my self-care routine:
I always said I wanted to be a writer. And I may not do that as my job now, But I definitely write. I write a lot. I write when I’m happy, sad, hopeful or feeling nothing. I write poetry, stories, letters to myself (very therapeutic), quote my favourite writers, Ideas, dreams and goals. I just enjoy putting pen to paper. Writing makes my soul happy, and I tend to use writing as escape from everything.
2. MEDITATION / YOGA & PRAYER
I grew up praying. I learned the Lord’s Prayer very early in life. And as I grew older, I learned to say my own prayers. Prayers from the depths of my heart & soul. And then I began to touch on meditation. It was mainly to try and figure out how t quiet my mind, and it has been a joy. I don’t meditate as much as I pray, but I am really going to try to meditate more, because it calms me down, and clears my mind… even if its just for a while.
Light yoga is also something I’ve recently added to this list. Stretching, even just a little bit to loosen my tense muscles has been a great relaxing method.
Reading is my favourite hobby. If i had a list of hobbies, reading would be number 1. I find it so fun and fulfilling. I read all sorts of things, but for self-care purposes, books of poetry and African literature are at the top of my reading list. I just finished reading “everything good will come” by Nigerian Author Sefi Atta… wow.
So now I’m halfway through this book by Yrsa Daley-Ward, one of my favourite poets ever…and I’m hooked. Poetry is definitely top 3 of my favorite genres to read… so calming.
I’m also re-reading the greatest book ever written, yes, I said greatest… The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo. I’ve read this book at least 10 times in the last 8 years, so it makes no sense to stop now.
I love books that offer a different world, a new world. Reading really offers me an indescribable sense of tranquility.
This has become the easiest thing for me to do. Detaching from people, things, situations, everything. I used to be so sensitive and connected to everything, and I’m slowly learning that feeling connected to myself is the only thing that should matter. And it it a glorious feeling. For my soul to have peace, I’ve had to learn to not feel the need to know everything, and be everywhere… And detachment was the only way. I don’t mean ghosting and disappearing without a word, I just mean I take a few days a week where I’m my only concern.
This past weekend was no exception. I barely left my house. And it was been a peaceful weekend.
Ahhhh, the greatest 5 letter word after the word money (LOL). But on a serious note, sleep is great. Sometimes, I spend all day dreaming of bed time. Sleep has been said to be amazing because it offers a temporary escape from life. And sometimes, that’s all it takes to lift your spirits, a little escape from life. And I’m an extremely light sleeper, so any undisturbed shut-eye I get is self-care.
So, do you practice self-care? If so, what are some of your go-to stuff to do to recharge and make your soul happy?