I have never been into celebrating birthdays. Well, not all birthdays, just my own. I know a lot of people just absolutely love their birthdays and celebrate it every year… parties and stuff. I’m not that girl. I think the last time I celebrated my birthday was when I had a dinner with friends for my 21st birthday. (mostly because everyone around me said “you can’t not celebrate your 21st birthday”).
For me, a typical birthday is waking up and giving praise to God that He granted me another year on earth, thanking Him for my whole life and then going on about my day (work during the past 4 years). But this year, I wanted to share 5 lessons I learned since my last birthday.
( My birthday is on Thursday – 7th of November)
1.I DESERVE GOOD AND GOOD WILL FIND ME
For a very long time, I didn’t expressly tell myself that i deserve good things in life. I’ve always known that I am a good person, but expecting and receiving good things in life was never a priority to me. Until this past year. Always wishing well for those around me, the people I care about, but never actually doing that for myself has stopped. Of course I still wish all the people I care about well (and the world really), but I’ve made myself number one on the list that I want good for. I know I deserve everything good, and I receive that everything good will find me.
2. BREATHE. TAKE A MOMENT AND BREATHE.
Many of us struggle to take a break. A break from life, from work, from people… Just a break. And this can make you feel overwhelmed and like you don’t have a moment to breathe. This year, I’ve taught myself to slow down the rush of my life, and just breathe. I do this by taking myself out for brunch/lunch, with a book or a notebook to write. I do this by literally switching off my phone, sitting alone (mostly in my car) and actually focusing on my breathing. Making sure I know that i’m breathing. This has become such a relaxing exercise for me. There is no way I can live an authentic life, without checking for my own breath first.
3. ACCEPT THINGS (AND PEOPLE) AS YOU SEE THEM
I consider myself a very sensitive person. And in the past, I used to hang on to things, situations and people that I didn’t need to hang on to. But I’m thankful to finally be learning that hanging on isn’t always the right thing to do, especially for my mental health (which has become a priority – I’ll write a separate post on mental health soon). I used to hang onto my wishes for people, my (usually blurred) view of the them and ‘what could be’. Now I know, it is what is is, I don’t force situations. What I see is what I get, and I now know that I should accept everything as it is presented to me, and not how I wish it could be.
4. CHOOSE THE LIFE YOU WANT AND LIVE IT.
My life has been filled with so many distractions and I have allowed those distractions to control my life. But this year, I realized that this is no way to live and decided what I wanted my life to reflect. I had to decide how I want to live, and do just that. Live that way. This includes the kind of people I have around me, what I spend my time on, my thoughts and learning to understand my feelings. To make sure I am living the life I want, I’ve had to make tough decisions in both my personal and professional lives. And to live the life I chose means to stand steadfast in my decisions and go to bed knowing I’ve done what I could during the day and push myself continue the next day.
5. SET YOUR GOALS. AND START
We all have dreams and aspirations… things we would like to achieve before a certain time. And I have realized that simply day-dreaming about them, or thinking of the day that it happens, does nothing for me. I have always had my dreams and aspirations written down, but what I failed to do was set a timeline for doing the things that will get me there, which made me lazy in terms of actually getting started. I do that now. I set goals for the week and month, and tick them off my list one by one. Even with my blog, and it has helped me with consistency. Knowing what you want is simply not enough, I had to learn to actually put action to my words and participate in manifesting what I want and need. Starting is the greatest gift you can give to your future self. Start where you are.
What about you? What lessons have you learned since your last birthday? Let me know in the comment section.